Modern Dating
I am no expert at dating in any capacity. I can only speak of experiences and what trending dating books and articles I have read. The days when you can meet your future husband next door or at school seem to be over. I look through my Facebook timeline and notice that fewer and fewer couples of yesteryear stayed together, let alone have gotten married.
With each passing generation there are new rules to dating and when taking a step back it can be quite humorous. The taboo of online dating has slowly changed: Generation Y seem to be more open to its sea of fishes. It has really opened new doors for singles looking for… well, whatever their preference is. This is one of the few questions required on your dating profile next to age and sex. A brief description, "I love cats, books and board games," and I am a ready player in the online dating world.
There are also many different dating phone apps available with a plethora of functions and intentions. Some allow for casual meet ups over coffee or a bagel, or the possibility for making a connection through visiting the same places. So if I visit the museum every other weekend, well, I have a chance to be matched to like-minded people.
Once you've found someone online to date, there is the awkwardness of talking through text. Who texts who first? Should I wait one hour to text him back so I don't seem desperate? Are my blocks of text the same size as his so I don't seem too eager? Should I research him on social media or not?
Ghosting is a whole other issue; defined from the Urban Dictionary site as, “The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone who you are dating, but no longer wish to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just "get the hint" and leave the subject alone, as opposed to simply telling them he/she is no longer interested.” Technology has allowed us to hide behind our phones. We can break things off by pretending it never happened. What about having some closure? The only closure someone can get is by sitting down with a friend and analyzing what happened and coming to the conclusion, he's just not that into you.
Some conversations remain online; friendships or relationships build over time but the face to face sometimes never happens. There is something about meeting someone in person that cannot be replaced. And that is where I stand; it is time to disconnect from dating apps and put yourself out there. Attend adult colouring events, join social sports teams, visit board game cafes, conferences, take up salsa dancing and many more. This BlogTO article gives you great ideas for meeting new people in the city.
What I found dating comes down to is that the focus should be on yourself. This is told again and again in articles, books and blogs. Being the best you that you can possibly be. This will allow you to be at the right capacity when you meet the right person.
Don't just listen to my experiences, there are some great books out there to help you decipher the strange dating world.
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Your blog article is so true along with this one, http://blogs.davelozinski.com/dating/modern-dating-in-2016 on how much the dating scenes have changed over the years! So different than even 10 years ago with all this new technology appearing! Keep up the great work!